I know we have all come across some people who you feel played you out to the point where you felt like a fool. They manipulated their way into you space and made you believe they were down with you as a team while all the while looking to ride off you and you didn’t even see it coming. These people will throw unbelievable charm at you in the beginning because they seek people that is looking for attention, make up stories that sound so sensitive and real posing as a victim of circumstances, before you met them. Those stories are part of the lies to make you feel for them. All the while they are scheming and clicking to use what you got to get what they want. This is why you see baby mamas, side chicks, married couples going outside of their relationships and people divorcing to get alimony in some cases. You see people living off other people and not paying their fair share when they are working and have the funds but saving it to better their situation not thinking about anyone else. They throw smoke screens by doing little things that they see will be a temporary fix for the person they are using. Yes they know just what they are doing and once they get what they are after their whole game and attitude change because they played you all along and they never cared about your situation in the first place. It is almost like marrying someone from another country through a dating service because you felt a passion and love for them,listening to what they are going through and because you have acquired these feelings and emotions so you are willing to marry this person and help them become a citizen for those reasons. Once you both say (I Do) it feels like your partner starts to become passive aggressive in just about everything they do just to make you feel like you are a problem, searching for an ending so they can use their legal status to help someone they really care about. Well guess what? That was their plan all along and to think, you were doing it for love. Smoke Screens. Here is my point, be very careful who you let in your space and find out their reasons for entering it. If this person is the only one on their side of their family and friends that is telling you their story and they are not making arrangements to setup a meeting for you to learn more, know that something is not tying together right and you will need clarity before you go deeper in a friendship/relationship. Look out for things like:
They way they play the Seduction Card by manipulating you with charm and flattery, and playing on your need for approval.
Watch for the blatant lies and how they are misrepresenting the truth along with being deliberately vague.
The constant denial and refusing to admit when they have done or said something wrong trying to make you doubt yourself.
Diversion is a big one, When you ask them a question they try to change the subject hoping to throw you off course.
Trying to make you feel guilty many times. Taking advantage of your kindness by trying to manipulate conscience.
If any of these tactics sound familiar to you then you are being emotionally ambushed and played to this person selfish ways and actions and must say it will not end well for you if you do not put a stop to this right away for the sake of loving yourself by putting yourself first.