I will be the first to tell you that grieving the death of a loved one is a process within itself. There are all kinds of feelings you are trying to process like: what am I going to do now that he/she is not around, the numb feeling of nobody understanding what you feel at this time, sort of like this disoriented feeling starts to come over you and this feeling of loss began to take on a leg of its own if you are not careful. There will come a point where you will question where you are and look at the world as if things are happening to you for a reason, but this is not true. This happen because life was designed for a beginning and an end, it is all unexpected at that point and time. Holidays and birthday occasions will not be the same and you will even have trouble sleeping thinking about your loved one. There will be days when something extraordinary will happen in your life and you will wish that person was there to share it with you and this putting you in this joyest but sad state of mind. I throw this out there because I have been through this process and I have friend who have been through the exact same thing. I say this to say that if you let these feeling fester inside of you it will definitely hold you back from moving forward and growing from carrying unhealthy feelings of something you have no control over. Until a person come to terms with themselves in understanding that their love ones do not have to worry about things that we stress over in our everyday life such as bills, your surviving families, keeping a roof over your head, phony friends, work and trying to keep up with the Jones, it will take up your positive space in your head leaving you weak in creating a strategy plan in living a more productive and successful life for you and you love ones. The person you are morning for would not want you to be in that space because they wanted the best for you when they was here and I am 100% sure they would the same for when they are not here. Look at it like this, from this point on, everything you push yourself to do should be in the name of that special person you so dearly miss and wish was still here. I can guarantee that it will feel better than that pain feeling you had about something nobody has control over. God is good and only he knows when and why things are going to happen so don’t stress trying to understand it yourself just move forward in your love ones name. Amen. Place your email address below for more topics like this: