There are many people in this world today who are in toxic relationships and feel like they are stuck trying to get out of it because of the hold the other partner has on them as far as messing up your status when it comes to self growth. They move in a way that can interfere with your strategy and plans from all that you have shared together. This can be all jeopardized when you try to explain that your misunderstanding between the two of you is hurting more than helping your situation. The person who possesses the more resistance will be the person who will make it hard to leave the relationship with this true knowledge and understanding of both of your differences. This person would feel that holding on to this toxic relationship would be more easier than starting over and looking for someone who will not be blinded by his/her hidden agendas or deception for their selfish needs in these times, so they refuse to let go or give up the relationship by holding things over your head if you leave.
What I would say to this issue is, nothing or nobody is perfect, in life you will make mistakes. The thing about life is, in order for you to move to the next level you will have to take on losses sometimes because of the way you went about getting into what you are dealing with at this time if it is not prospering to either one of you. If you are falling in love with someone and compromised your standards this means you are putting this relationship before your self improvement, this may never work because it is one sided the focus should be on the both of you in any order. It’s like being in a relationship with a drug or alcohol addicted person and you do not do either one of them. The only way you will be happy is to take your bumps and bruises getting through your current situation, nurse your wounds professionally by seeing a therapist or, figure it out on your own by recognizing the error of your ways and actions being aware of what your are seeking, lay it all on the table in the beginning of a relationship. When this happens you both know all there is to know about one another and here is when decisions can be made on how to proceed with each other with your eyes wide open. this day.